Last piece of oversized clothing, very delayed from Amazon.com finally arrived but was the wrong size. Frick. Too late to order another. This is why I mock "prime" 2-day shipping. Depends on who is shipping it, how long they take, and any "oops" they make like "we're sorry, your shipment was supposed to arrive today, it hasn't left yet, and will be another two weeks).
On a good note, got a couple appropriate post-surgery shirts and they kinda fit. Very soft and stretchy, so they're not uncomfortable, even though they're not exactly flattering either. The point is based on the size description, I thought no way, but upon reading the size guide, I thought, well, maybe . . . I will still need help getting them on and off for a while. Ugh. At least it's something.
If all else fails, and I don't need to go anywhere, I can rock the Greek toga look. Wear a sheet or towel. I'll be sleeping or resting a lot the first couple days anyway, right? Need to learn to roll with things.
A movie my spouse likes to watch, especially when not feeling well is The Martian, where an astronaut is stranded on Mars. At the end he comments on space travel: things will go wrong. You have to work the problem. And then the next problem. You solve enough problems, and you get to come home. Not a bad mind-set. Work the problem. Find a different angle. Don't get in a rut of dismay when the easiest option fails.
Tuesday, March 25, 2025
Monday, March 24, 2025
Specialized Post-Op Clothing
Got a call with my pre-surgery instructions from the hospital. While I appreciate the call so one can ask questions, they rattled some things off so quickly, I think a short written summary might also be helpful. Especially for anyone older or so freaking anxious they can't think straight.
2 days before surgery is not ideal notice to tell people that they need specialized clothing to bring to surgery. Seriously. Especially if you don’t fit standard sizes. Is it reasonable to expect everyone has Amazon Prime, or is willing to pay for express shipping for these things? It would have been nice to know a little more in advance. I’d seen a youtube video where the person sewed her own, and that’s great. I had no idea if I’d need those types of shirts in the first place. I’ve been e-mailing the CMT there frequently with questions. It’s sad no one thought to bring this up before. I can't sew, but even if I called in a favor for someone I know, or try to recruit a friend of a friend, this is incredibly short notice. Hey friend, you want to drop everything you're doing and sew a couple shirts that I need in two days flat? You don't have a life or plans or anything, right?
Basically sounds like they put the sling on you directly after surgery without clothes, and you’re not allowed to use any clothing unless you have the special ones that open on the side, that allow you to keep your sling on, and stationary the entire time. Ok. Still would have been nice to know that ahead of time.
2 days before surgery is not ideal notice to tell people that they need specialized clothing to bring to surgery. Seriously. Especially if you don’t fit standard sizes. Is it reasonable to expect everyone has Amazon Prime, or is willing to pay for express shipping for these things? It would have been nice to know a little more in advance. I’d seen a youtube video where the person sewed her own, and that’s great. I had no idea if I’d need those types of shirts in the first place. I’ve been e-mailing the CMT there frequently with questions. It’s sad no one thought to bring this up before. I can't sew, but even if I called in a favor for someone I know, or try to recruit a friend of a friend, this is incredibly short notice. Hey friend, you want to drop everything you're doing and sew a couple shirts that I need in two days flat? You don't have a life or plans or anything, right?
Basically sounds like they put the sling on you directly after surgery without clothes, and you’re not allowed to use any clothing unless you have the special ones that open on the side, that allow you to keep your sling on, and stationary the entire time. Ok. Still would have been nice to know that ahead of time.
Friday, March 21, 2025
Crap is Getting Real
Picked up the arm sling today. Freaking big piece of hardware. It’s an immobilization sling (I think?) – not just a supportive wimpy thing. Velcro straps around the arm, shoulder/neck and waist. Big ol’ “bolster” cushion supposedly optional and mainly for comfort. It has a photo how it should look when put on correctly, and it looks completely wrong compared to the videos I’ve watched. We're talkng the ones from doctors and orthopaedic clinics. I had heard/read the hand should be in line with, or above the elbow, so blood doesn’t pool in the hand. In the photo, it’s more like 110 degree angle instead of 90 degrees, and looks like gravity would let the arm slide right out. Ok, let’s just let the arm flop there below the waist. According to the directions, it’s supposed to tie the belt part around your waste. Uhm, ok. If I were to do that, I would be seriously bent over, trying to get my elboe and arm down to it. The elbow is supposed to fit neatly in the corner, or else it’s not correctly supported. If it’s absolutely supposed to be around the waste, I have to either I can double over or I can gently rest my arm on top of the sling (not inside). I shouldn’t stress over those details so much, but it’s annoying not knowing. I'm getting better though. I'm not completely freaking out right now. At first I researched all that stuff because I was paranoid that if it wasn't precisely in the right spot, it wouldn't heal correctly.
If they tell me how it works the day of, right before surgery, I’ll be too nervous to concentrate. If they tell me afterwards, I’ll be so loopy I won’t remember. And I might accuse my spouse for not paying close enough attention later if we have differing recollections.
Saw another patient picking up their brace at the office, and she advised one will wake up with the sling already on. Uhm, ok, so do they dress you first? Or do you go home in a hospital gown draped over you? I wondered if there’s preferable clothing to dress in, or bring with you. Heard I need to wait patiently for the hospital to call with instructions a day or two before.
The patient I ran into today said she heard button-up shirts are the way to go. I have a couple button-up shirts if needed. They make little button-assist tools. It still doesn’t answer the question how they want you to put on clothing – clench your arm against your side, or let it dangle, or prop it up on a table next to you.
Ugh. Previously, a person at the doctor’s office advised I would get all the important instructions for sling use at the first post-op visit. My first post-op is 10 days later. You’re going to give me instructions how to use the sling then? I get it if I can’t take a full shower until then, but it might be nice to know if I can change clothing in the first 10 days. If they do allow sort of shower, which of the methods they’d like me to use. The only thing they said was to not get the incision wet. They even said a lot of their patients find food wrap sucessful. That's nice, but what do they recommend doing with the arm during a shower? Do I keep the sling on? (probably not) Do I take the sling off, keep my arm in the same position and clutch my opposite side? Or do I let it dangle and flop around? I have a shower sling, but it doesn’t keep things very stable, and slides around my neck (I’ve tried it out). Holding my hand up in the brace position sounds like it might get tiring. Yet allowing it to dangle loosely, I’m afraid I might try to raise or move my arm out of habit (and haziness - not sure how much pain and/or painkillers I’ll be experiencing during the first week).
I guess all I need to know is to show up at the designated time with the brace, a down-payment for surger.y
If they tell me how it works the day of, right before surgery, I’ll be too nervous to concentrate. If they tell me afterwards, I’ll be so loopy I won’t remember. And I might accuse my spouse for not paying close enough attention later if we have differing recollections.
Saw another patient picking up their brace at the office, and she advised one will wake up with the sling already on. Uhm, ok, so do they dress you first? Or do you go home in a hospital gown draped over you? I wondered if there’s preferable clothing to dress in, or bring with you. Heard I need to wait patiently for the hospital to call with instructions a day or two before.
The patient I ran into today said she heard button-up shirts are the way to go. I have a couple button-up shirts if needed. They make little button-assist tools. It still doesn’t answer the question how they want you to put on clothing – clench your arm against your side, or let it dangle, or prop it up on a table next to you.
Ugh. Previously, a person at the doctor’s office advised I would get all the important instructions for sling use at the first post-op visit. My first post-op is 10 days later. You’re going to give me instructions how to use the sling then? I get it if I can’t take a full shower until then, but it might be nice to know if I can change clothing in the first 10 days. If they do allow sort of shower, which of the methods they’d like me to use. The only thing they said was to not get the incision wet. They even said a lot of their patients find food wrap sucessful. That's nice, but what do they recommend doing with the arm during a shower? Do I keep the sling on? (probably not) Do I take the sling off, keep my arm in the same position and clutch my opposite side? Or do I let it dangle and flop around? I have a shower sling, but it doesn’t keep things very stable, and slides around my neck (I’ve tried it out). Holding my hand up in the brace position sounds like it might get tiring. Yet allowing it to dangle loosely, I’m afraid I might try to raise or move my arm out of habit (and haziness - not sure how much pain and/or painkillers I’ll be experiencing during the first week).
I guess all I need to know is to show up at the designated time with the brace, a down-payment for surger.y
Thursday, March 20, 2025
One Week Until Rotator Cuff Surgery
Well, rotator cuff and bicep repair surgery one week from today. Can’t think of much else to do. Expecting one more package to arrive, but otherwise, all set. Ha. What that really means is we’ll figure out all we didn’t think of later when we get to it. There are lots of products out there to make one-hand life easier, but some of them are a bit more spendy, and since this is a temporary situation, we should be ok.
Getting my hair cut super short this weekend. Might as well. I don’t want to have to deal with it more than I have to, with one arm/hand.
You’d think reading might be a good activity while I’m recovering, but I’m not sure how to prop open books so I can read easily. Haven’t even gotten the official sling, so I have no idea how bulky or where that will occupy space. If I’m achy at all, I have no doubt I might use that as an excuse to watch movies instead. First week I’m not planning on doing much besides home PT exercises. Know someone who had similar surgery at the same place and their nerve block took 3 days to wear off. We’ll see what happens.
I'm a lot less nervous this time (so far) even though I'm pretty sure recovery is going to be so much worse this time.
Getting my hair cut super short this weekend. Might as well. I don’t want to have to deal with it more than I have to, with one arm/hand.
You’d think reading might be a good activity while I’m recovering, but I’m not sure how to prop open books so I can read easily. Haven’t even gotten the official sling, so I have no idea how bulky or where that will occupy space. If I’m achy at all, I have no doubt I might use that as an excuse to watch movies instead. First week I’m not planning on doing much besides home PT exercises. Know someone who had similar surgery at the same place and their nerve block took 3 days to wear off. We’ll see what happens.
I'm a lot less nervous this time (so far) even though I'm pretty sure recovery is going to be so much worse this time.
Tuesday, March 18, 2025
9 Days Until Rotator Cuff Repair
My latest pessimism. I saw some of quotes how you can accomplish nearly anything as long as you believe you can – the mind over body idea. What is that all encompassing one? The body can achieve what the mind can believe? Right now I feel humph, yeah right. I would have been happy to mentally command my shoulder to heal on its own. As wonderful as the mind is, there are limits here. Same with faith and prayers to be healed (let's not go too far into that).
I wish I will my opposite shoulder to be healthy as well. The more I practiced doing certain tasks one-handed, the more I experienced sharp pains that don’t completely go away. Lately I find it difficult to find a comfortable sleeping position that avoids pain on both arm/shoulders at the same time. I’m wondering if it’s in my best interest to have my spouse help me with most things after surgery so I don’t continue to make it worse. All those videos show and encourage a person to be as self sufficient as possible. Generally sound advice. But what if I’m wreaking havoc on my other joints?
I can’t have multiple surgeries this year. #1, I can’t afford to take that much time off (sure, I wish I had 12 weeks PTO saved up). #2 cumulative medical expenses if multiple surgeries. Don’t even go there. #3 If it takes 6 months to get back the use of one arm, I’d barely be able to function with the recovery arm and then fix the other? Doesn’t sound like a good idea.
I hope the opposite arm isn’t damaged to the point it requires drastic intervention. But what do I know? What can I do to prevent it getting worse? Or promote healing to the extent that it can? I’ve taken several breaks (days at a time) when it hurts, and tell myself I’ve practiced enough; I need to take it easy. Then I try one little thing, and bam – stabbing pain. I have now stopped any practice/prep. We'll figure it out after surgery.
Sure, I can mentally tell myself that my tendons can self-heal and be happy, flexible and strong. But if it doesn't work, do we really need to feel mentally weak and incompetent as well as physically? This is where I've seen the lack of faith accusations as well. Sure, let's kick a person while they're down. Tell them if only they had sufficient faith they would be healed without modern medicinal intervention. (Can you hear me growling at that idea?)
That's enough commentary on that. Icicng the "healthy" shoudler. Not sure how to elevate (more than it is) or put compression on it. Those general RICE recommendations: Rest, Ice. Compression, and eventually exercise. Focusing on rest and ice for the next few days while I can. Wish me luck.
I wish I will my opposite shoulder to be healthy as well. The more I practiced doing certain tasks one-handed, the more I experienced sharp pains that don’t completely go away. Lately I find it difficult to find a comfortable sleeping position that avoids pain on both arm/shoulders at the same time. I’m wondering if it’s in my best interest to have my spouse help me with most things after surgery so I don’t continue to make it worse. All those videos show and encourage a person to be as self sufficient as possible. Generally sound advice. But what if I’m wreaking havoc on my other joints?
I can’t have multiple surgeries this year. #1, I can’t afford to take that much time off (sure, I wish I had 12 weeks PTO saved up). #2 cumulative medical expenses if multiple surgeries. Don’t even go there. #3 If it takes 6 months to get back the use of one arm, I’d barely be able to function with the recovery arm and then fix the other? Doesn’t sound like a good idea.
I hope the opposite arm isn’t damaged to the point it requires drastic intervention. But what do I know? What can I do to prevent it getting worse? Or promote healing to the extent that it can? I’ve taken several breaks (days at a time) when it hurts, and tell myself I’ve practiced enough; I need to take it easy. Then I try one little thing, and bam – stabbing pain. I have now stopped any practice/prep. We'll figure it out after surgery.
Sure, I can mentally tell myself that my tendons can self-heal and be happy, flexible and strong. But if it doesn't work, do we really need to feel mentally weak and incompetent as well as physically? This is where I've seen the lack of faith accusations as well. Sure, let's kick a person while they're down. Tell them if only they had sufficient faith they would be healed without modern medicinal intervention. (Can you hear me growling at that idea?)
That's enough commentary on that. Icicng the "healthy" shoudler. Not sure how to elevate (more than it is) or put compression on it. Those general RICE recommendations: Rest, Ice. Compression, and eventually exercise. Focusing on rest and ice for the next few days while I can. Wish me luck.
Saturday, March 15, 2025
~2 weeks until Rotator Cuff Surgery
Improvements. Finally got time off work approved. Good thing I still have some vacation time.
Bought some bigger clothes (casual lounge-wear). Universal recommendation is to get big/baggy clothing so it’s easier to get on and off. Even got a couple pairs of front-closure bras for when my shoulder is somewhat healed. I watched and the videos and tried the supposedly easy methods to either front or back closure brans on with one hand. Suffice it to say my spouse is going to be dong that part for me for 6 weeks, and then we'll see. Front will be easier at some point, and I'll have to go out in public eventually (mainly physical therapy).
Another widely recommended tip is to use pump bottles whenever possible for soap, shampoo, lotion, etc. Everything I have is either a bar, flip, or screw-top. Somewhat recently found fantastic bar shampoo and conditioner. Nertz can't use that for a while. Probably. Oh well. Got a couple hopefully fun soap scents that weren't too expensive. Pretty sure it's going to dry my skin out. Figured at least if it doesn't smell bad, might be more sufferable. I'm not normally a poofy loofah person, but the handle around one's wrist suddenly makes perfect sense when you only have one arm and don't want to drop things.
Not sure what else to do. Aside from the painful stretches they gave me to keep my range of motion up. Nasty stuff. The word "excruiating" comes to mind, but they're not as bad once the stretch is released. Problem is if one gets frozen shoulder, due to lack of use, recovery could increase from 6-12 months, to 2 1/2+ years. Interesting how perspective makes it more bearable. It's already torn, and they're going to repair it, so what's the biggie if it's slightly more torn for them to fix?
No NSAIDS/anti-inflammatory remedies starting Monday. I started reducing the amount I take and was unpleasantly surprised how much pain I was in. Bringing out the topicals: bio-freeze, salonpas, Deep Blue, whatever can take the edge off. Looking into topical lidocane too. I know they normally don't smell great. The price you pay for relief. Someone clearly went to a lot of effort on the one product I saw labeled "fruity." Uhm, ok. Good luck with that one.
Bought some bigger clothes (casual lounge-wear). Universal recommendation is to get big/baggy clothing so it’s easier to get on and off. Even got a couple pairs of front-closure bras for when my shoulder is somewhat healed. I watched and the videos and tried the supposedly easy methods to either front or back closure brans on with one hand. Suffice it to say my spouse is going to be dong that part for me for 6 weeks, and then we'll see. Front will be easier at some point, and I'll have to go out in public eventually (mainly physical therapy).
Another widely recommended tip is to use pump bottles whenever possible for soap, shampoo, lotion, etc. Everything I have is either a bar, flip, or screw-top. Somewhat recently found fantastic bar shampoo and conditioner. Nertz can't use that for a while. Probably. Oh well. Got a couple hopefully fun soap scents that weren't too expensive. Pretty sure it's going to dry my skin out. Figured at least if it doesn't smell bad, might be more sufferable. I'm not normally a poofy loofah person, but the handle around one's wrist suddenly makes perfect sense when you only have one arm and don't want to drop things.
Not sure what else to do. Aside from the painful stretches they gave me to keep my range of motion up. Nasty stuff. The word "excruiating" comes to mind, but they're not as bad once the stretch is released. Problem is if one gets frozen shoulder, due to lack of use, recovery could increase from 6-12 months, to 2 1/2+ years. Interesting how perspective makes it more bearable. It's already torn, and they're going to repair it, so what's the biggie if it's slightly more torn for them to fix?
No NSAIDS/anti-inflammatory remedies starting Monday. I started reducing the amount I take and was unpleasantly surprised how much pain I was in. Bringing out the topicals: bio-freeze, salonpas, Deep Blue, whatever can take the edge off. Looking into topical lidocane too. I know they normally don't smell great. The price you pay for relief. Someone clearly went to a lot of effort on the one product I saw labeled "fruity." Uhm, ok. Good luck with that one.
Thursday, March 6, 2025
Surgery Paperwork Stress
Maybe I'm programmed incorrectly, that I will always find something to stress about. This week's stress is over taking time off work.
Initially the doctor’s office said plan to take 6-12 weeks off work. Sounds good. 6 weeks non-negotiable will be confined to a sling. My job is typing for speed, so that’s not going to happen.
Earlier this week the office (finally) got around to completing the paperwork required for me to take time off. They suggested I would only need 2-3 weeks. Ahem. At 2 weeks, I wonder if I’ll still be icing and moping around in pain a lot. I won’t be able to drive, type, and at that point who knows how well I’ll even be at hygiene and getting dressed (thus staying home and moping). I asked them to please check with the surgeon, as this was quite a bit less than previously estimated. They said fine, they’ll submit for 6 weeks. (sigh)
Then they complete the paperwork (due Tuesday, this is pushing it), provided me with a copy and it said 10 days off work. What the ?? I contacted them and politely asked to help me understand where this was coming from. Initial response was “oh, that’s to let work know that I might need to take time off intermittently to go to follow-up appointments or physical therapy. Uhm, ok, that’s not very clear the way it reads . . . They made a comment how this is how they fill it out for people who can’t work more than 3 days in a row. Great. Open it up for them that I could potentially work Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, have Wednesday off, and finish up the week Thursday, Friday. You can’t open the window like that for some places. Don’t give them any ideas implying I can be back to work after 10 days if that’s not what you mean. I’m already freaking out about pain and the arduous recovery proces . . . let's please not add this on top.
Initially the doctor’s office said plan to take 6-12 weeks off work. Sounds good. 6 weeks non-negotiable will be confined to a sling. My job is typing for speed, so that’s not going to happen.
Earlier this week the office (finally) got around to completing the paperwork required for me to take time off. They suggested I would only need 2-3 weeks. Ahem. At 2 weeks, I wonder if I’ll still be icing and moping around in pain a lot. I won’t be able to drive, type, and at that point who knows how well I’ll even be at hygiene and getting dressed (thus staying home and moping). I asked them to please check with the surgeon, as this was quite a bit less than previously estimated. They said fine, they’ll submit for 6 weeks. (sigh)
Then they complete the paperwork (due Tuesday, this is pushing it), provided me with a copy and it said 10 days off work. What the ?? I contacted them and politely asked to help me understand where this was coming from. Initial response was “oh, that’s to let work know that I might need to take time off intermittently to go to follow-up appointments or physical therapy. Uhm, ok, that’s not very clear the way it reads . . . They made a comment how this is how they fill it out for people who can’t work more than 3 days in a row. Great. Open it up for them that I could potentially work Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, have Wednesday off, and finish up the week Thursday, Friday. You can’t open the window like that for some places. Don’t give them any ideas implying I can be back to work after 10 days if that’s not what you mean. I’m already freaking out about pain and the arduous recovery proces . . . let's please not add this on top.
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